ADH Gives Shoes
May 20, 2013
Recently Ms. Heart was saying that I needed a pair of Louboutin’s. I told her maybe some day. Today was that day. When I came back from lunch today at work, I found a package with flowers for my early birthday present. It was from her. AND it was the exact pair that I wanted, Daffodile pumps!
Update: I just realized how expensive these are = OMG!
May 20, 2013
My youngest graduates this weekend from High School. It is hard for me to believe. I am proud of her. I am proud of myself, I survived.
I am not sure I am going to survive this upcoming weekend though. Parts of the family are coming into town including my ex-husband, my ex-mother in law, my mother, my sister and a cousin. Since my place is so small, I just rented hotel rooms for all of them. They all arrive on Friday, just in time for the Baccalaureate Mass. Dinner plans that night are back at my house while on Saturday after graduation; my ex-husband will be treating us all to Brunch. They all fly out on Sunday.
Come Monday, I will be much more relaxed.
In a strange twist of planning, with my daughter’s graduation also comes a rather hectic summer for her. On Monday, my daughter is going to Hawaii with three friends for 10 days. The trip is being paid for by the ex-in laws. When she gets back, she is leaving within 24 hours. She is spending seven weeks in Chicaogland. She is not looking forward to it. From Chicagoland, she will be going with a couple of cousins up to Wisconsin for three weeks to help build a summer cottage on a lake. From there, she will be back here for a two weeks, and then it is start of her freshman year in college at UC Davis.
So it has hit me, my daughter is basically moving on. I will always have a bedroom for her. But it is that time where it is the next phase, for her and for me.
Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are genuinely good guys who just don’t understand why their comments might be unwelcome. Some men who want to compliment random women on the street are creepy predators. Most are somewhere in between, and guess what? I don’t know you, I don’t know your life, and I have no idea if you’re going to leave it at “Hey, you look good in that dress!” or follow it up with “But you’d look better without it! Har har! C’mon, where’re you going? I know you heard me! Fucking cunt, nobody wants your fat ass anyway, bitch.”
When you compliment a random woman who doesn’t know you, no matter how nice you are about it, there’s a good chance she’s going to freak out internally because for all she knows, you could be that latter type. And I get that it’s really unfair that women would just assume that about you. I get that it sucks that sometimes, expressing totally reasonable opinions like “hey you’re hot” will make women terrified of you or furious at you. That’s not fair.
But if you’re going to lay the blame for that somewhere, for fuck’s sake, don’t blame the woman. Blame all the guys who have called her a bitch and a cunt for ignoring their advances. Blame all the guys who may have harassed, abused, or assaulted her in the past. Blame all the people who may never do such a thing themselves, but who were quick to blame her and tell her to just get over it. Blame the fact that if she stops and talks to you and then something bad happens, people will blame her for stopping and talking to you.
May 15, 2013
I never have had a passport. I will be 38 years old next month and I have never had a need for a passport. So this morning, my boss says to me that I am going on a trip to London next month. He told me that we will be there for two days of work but if I wanted to stay a few days longer the company will pick up the hotel room. I was stunned. I then panic. I don’t have a passport. He smiled and said, “Well get on it.”
Thank god for ADH. I called her in complete panic. I had no idea what to do. She calmed me down and got me in contact with the right people. In less than a few hours, I had my picture done and all of the information submitted and my rush fee paid.
I am going to London! I am so excited. I should be cooler but I’m not. London!
Great Mother’s Day
May 12, 2013
Happy Mother’s Day to all of you. Mine was perfect. My daughter and I had a lovely day. We spent the day up in San Francisco shopping. I am happy to say that we both kept our spending down to a small fortune.